Time for a Reset

Dick Ruffin Reflections

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While post-election political discourse has been more civil in the Piedmont region than in many places, there is still need for a reset.

Is the nightmare really over? Toxins infused into the body politic through a protracted and horrific campaign are not easily purged. It was not only the candidates who flaunted basic values of honesty, respect, and decency, abetted by a ratings-hungry media. We, voters and non-voters alike, were complicit, either by silence, or what we said or passed on or simply by the relish with which we watched the debacle, like kids at a food fight.

It would be both naive and irresponsible to expect the restraint of the President-elect, the Democratic opposition, and the media to restore civility to our political life. The hurts are deep, the pains real and the benefits alluring. We should not be surprised by more provocations that mess with our emotions and release more toxins.

No, if the toxins are to be purged, it must be done by us, by citizens who choose to stop playing the game and accept responsibility for the mess. It means making a fresh start, resetting our inner clocks.

How do we do this?

Perhaps a first step is to pause and consider in the quiet of our own hearts how we might have behaved differently during the campaign.

Secondly, we could resolve to stop playing the blame game. Cease rehearsing arguments that demonize the ‘other.’ Turn off the hyper-partisan talk shows. Stop passing along social media postings that only raise blood pressure. Stop stereotyping and develop a healthy skepticism about what purports to be news.

Thirdly, let’s start listening, especially to those with whom we disagree. Reach out to neighbors, workmates and those in our own families who think differently, and discover what are their real concerns. Read and reflect on varied viewpoints. Look for common ground and appreciate sensible observations from the other side. That’s what problem solvers do, and we can do that.

Fourthly, talk dispassionately about our genuine fears. This will not be easy, especially for African Americans, Muslims, the LGBTQ community and recent immigrants, or for those whose jobs do not, in fact, come back. We observed in the election that unexpressed fear was the elephant in the room. When we bring our fears to the table and take even a small step towards those we fear, we discover that fear loses some of its power.

Fifthly, we can remind ourselves that American institutions remain sound. Our courts will not roll over. Congress will not become a cipher. A free press will continue to uncover truth. The non-profit sector will remain strong. Our political parties will take steps to broaden their bases. Business leaders will not tolerate a potentially disastrous trade war, and corporations and communities will continue to take practical steps to mitigate the impacts of climate change.

Finally, we can act together to address local challenges, whether drug addiction, homelessness or welcoming the Muslim community. This will involve robust debate, for differences are real. But if we focus on the problem and not on the politics, we can get things done that will benefit all, and set an example for our legislature.

If we citizens take these simple though challenging steps, we will restore confidence in our capacity to engage the other and together solve problems.

About the Author
This piece appears on the website of Initiatives for Change International,  an organization dedicated to trust building, which Richard Ruffin served as the executive director. It was also published in the November 30 edition of the Culpeper Star-Exponent, the newspaper serving the Virginia community where Richard and his wife now live.